But you can't seem to get what you want, right? So, you say you're gorgeous, beautiful, cute, smart, talented, sensitive, charming...yet, you can't seem to get any close to something serious?
Well, I realized that in order to be able to get something, you need to make it known beforehand. What I noticed with a lot of other women is that they don't tell ahead, but only hope that things would turn out as they want. Truth is, reality seldom stacks up to these expectations...if ever. Before you decide to date a man for serious, you need to let the folk know what you're on to. Let the guy know what your expectations are, let him know you want a serious relationship, and if he is looking for anything else other than serious, that he can forget about you. Do NOT jump into a ''relationship'' without knowing for sure what HE wants. What's the point of trying out something you seriously want to invest emotions into, when you don't even know the basic ingredients for it to give it a go? What these basic ingredients are? Knowing how he feels towards you, and knowing what he wants from you. Also, letting him know the same about you. There is no point in staying quiet about it, it doesn't make you look more appealing, more mysterious or more intelligent, quite to the contrary. When you're looking for a serious relationship, mystery is the last thing you should opt for.
Sure, it's fine to keep your own secrets, you don't have to tell it all. But the basic things that will ensure that you won't end up with a broken heart and a landing on ice, must be spoken. Even more, men appreciate it when we are vocal about our expectations, wants, desires. Believe me, he will definitely appreciate it if you told him straight up what you want from him, and what your limits are.
That's one big mistake a lot of women make when they are trying to ''hunt'' a man into a relationship with her. Now, if you are trying to open up the topic and you feel he isn't telling you anything, and time is passing by, you have your answer. When a guy has his mind made up, he will not hesitate to gladly tell you the same, or turn you down, for that matter. If you feel uncertain about it still, even after several discussions with him, that means he is selling you BS to keep you around. It doesn't mean he has serious intentions with you. Listen to your gut feeling.
Don't sleep with a man before you've got these lines settled. A lot of women fail with getting into meaningful relationships not because there is something wrong with them as women, or that they lack something, but merely because they don't show a backbone. Don't let him lead you however he wants, you're not a toy for him to play with. You need to set some rules and limits, and you need to let him know about it. How far is too far for you, what do you want in the future and how you feel about it.
Another No-No that you need to delete from your seduction-for-long-term list is Mind-Games. Playing mind games with him, like cat and mouse, is teenage stuff you need to get over with. It will only serve to make you look immature and unserious, and it will only annoy him. This is only going to ruin your image in his eyes, contrary to what you'd hoped for. Men aren't stupid. They feel the same as you do when someone is intentionally messing with them. Most of them don't enjoy being played with, same as most of us, women, hate that too. If you want a real thing, then be real. No games. Leave the games to the kids.
When you are getting to know someone, be sure to notice his personality traits. Contrary to what many say, possessiveness and jealousy are negative traits...well, I say they aren't necessarily. Why? Well, let me explain: Would you like to be in a relationship with a man who doesn't care if you flirt with someone else, or if someone else is hitting on you? Would you want a man who doesn't care if he spends time with you or not, who doesn't care if other guys are trying to get into your pants? You know, with real feelings, jealousy and possessiveness comes implicitly. It's inevitable. If you care, you want to protect what you have, you are afraid of losing what you have, you want them to be yours. If you notice your guy keeps saying he wants his freedom/space, doesn't show any, or very little signs of possessiveness, and shows no jealousy when it needs be, be sure he is emotionally unavailable and definitely not ready for a relationship with you. He won't commit and there is nothing you can do about it.
When a guy doesn't care, he doesn't care. You can try all the tricks in the world, he won't care. Mind games won't help, unless he is very immature.
Anyway, these are only a few tips/opinions, take it as you wish.
There will be more to come, ladies.
